There is something that we all go through in our twenties, and it’s make a drastic decision on what we planning to do before 30.  It’s not intention but after all our trial and errors, wins and failures we latch onto to something and we go with it.  We do at times try to battle against the grain to pursue that one thing we always wanted or dreamed of, but to get it requires a certain element we search high and low for, and sometimes is simple as a backing from a friend or family to lend encourage.  Do you feel I am right about this?  What’s one of the main goals you went after or think you will go after in your twenties?

I break it down to couple of choices we go after or just randomly continue via it has worked for us and it’s the only thing we can rely on.  Most all people in the world focus on one of these core elements:

1. Career/Accomplishment
2. Education
3. Love vs Loneliness
4. Family, Marriage and Babies

It might sound very general and common knowledge but really it’s just facts we created.  If you had a baby before your twenties or early out of your teenage years, mostly likely you are missing a few things like LOVE (because the baby father was not who you thought he was) and you battle loneliness trying to seek a great partner to make life with, while dwelling your every moment to raise your child and better their opportunities that you didn’t have.  Also you lust for the education as you know have to worry about finances that create a barrier into education gain.

If you haven’t accomplish much or have a lost for incredible highlights from your high school years into college, you are most likely fight the grain trying to accomplish something you only have dreams of.  Such things as being a business owner, a model, a singer, a rapper, and many other accolades that you feel will define you and keep your spirits on high.  But most of the time is spent wasting away from jobs and avoiding or having very bad relationships, while your education is lacking or feel you need a boost to elevate your success rate.  So you duck much things such as family, marriage and babies until you have created this winning streak with merit.

Some people are hell-bent on education, for education justifies them as a person in society or they hold to high standard to define their worth.  So forget love, forget babies, and marriage, for it’s a narrow focus on hinting those books, making those marks and steadily finishing their time as if it was a jail sentence.

Then we have the countdown clock, the score board as you may, that family, babies, legacy beats all even if you or because you didn’t accomplish a righteous career or education, you a strapped in wanting something of your own.  A claim of you, a child, a husband/love, a marriage a oneness you feel no one can break but GOD if it righteous, we pursue a stable.  We settle for what we have and do with what we have got, because love and a family beats all to you.

Many of what I have said is based of culture, people, religion, social status, family structure and belief in self, that decide the road we take as a person in our twenties.  The pressure of the social norms or the reflection and comparison we stake against other around us shape our well-being.  That friend you thought was talentless, that girl who got a good man but not education but you wanted a good man, that rap or modeling career that never took off, but you can’t help but think about it every time to surf the Internet or watch TV, think that could be or could have been me.

Our twenties it what defines our angle to fruit life, a life of dream catching  and/or conforming.

We weren’t prepare and can’t be prepared for every twist and turn in our lives, but we make our decisions, here and now, and strive for the best.  Hello twenties, how are you?

What are your thoughts of your twenties?  What are you seeking for?  Do you agree with this post?  Lend and share your input and opinions.

Thanks for reading
Richardo Wilson

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